Blog Diary #1: Memorial Weekend Pt.1

 

The Negative: 

First, I have to share the negative experience this Memorial Day weekend brought. Could it be because I'm getting over a sickness? Or maybe it could have been the random rainy showers we got in this hot ass sun. Or really, it could be my first altercation with a Karen in a while that might've done it. Yep, it's the Karen. I am supposed to post more daily advice, something positive relating to metaphysics. But this is also my blog, and I can post just as I feel. Just to make things savory, I will do both. 

How can we emotionally get over a negative person? 

This question relates to all scenarios relating to negative people. Getting over the emotional impact of a negative person usually takes two things at the same time: distance from their influence and rebuilding your own sense of stability. Negative people can affect your mood, confidence, energy, and even how you see yourself if you’re around them long enough.

Now, my situation was pretty light compared to most others' experiences with Karens. Mine's just wanted to use her privilege to skip me in the bathroom line. Like, come on, we are not five and surely aren't children to be dealing with any of this. One has to ask oneself: why would a grown woman want to be such a negative person? And why does it bother me so much? 

One useful question is: “What part of this person’s behavior am I still carrying with me?”
Sometimes we move on physically before we move on emotionally. 

The truth is, negative encounters stick with us because they interrupt our peace. One rude interaction can replay in our minds longer than ten positive ones. That’s the part I find interesting. Energy transfers quickly, especially when someone enters a space already carrying frustration, entitlement, or anger. If we are not careful, we start carrying it too.

Maybe that’s the real lesson here. Not every negative person deserves access to our emotional state. Some people are committed to misunderstanding others, creating conflict, or projecting their unhappiness onto whoever is nearby. It is not our job to absorb that energy and make it our identity for the rest of the day.

I had to remind myself that peace is also a practice. Emotional maturity is not pretending things do not bother you. It is recognizing the feeling, understanding why it affected you, and refusing to let it poison the rest of your spirit.

So yes, the Karen irritated me. But maybe the deeper purpose behind the interaction was to force me to reflect on how quickly outside energy can disrupt inner balance. And maybe growth is learning how to return back to yourself faster each time.